30 Day Intimacy & Sex Challenge

Life can be awfully hectic between work obligations, raising children, and all of the responsibilities that make up adult life. If you're lucky enough to have a wonderful partner in your life, the last thing you want to do is neglect that relationship by going through the motions without taking the time to connect.

Research has shown that one of the most critical mistakes you can make as a partner, is turning down your partner when they reach out for connection. That doesn't mean you can't say no to sex once in awhile, but when your partner shows they want to connect, whether that's physically, emotionally or spiritually, when you respond positively, it goes a long way to make them feel appreciated, valued and secure.

Here’s a 30-Day Intimacy and Sex Challenge designed to help couples deepen their connection, spice things up, and explore new dimensions of their relationship. Each day features a different task, alternating between physical intimacy, emotional connection, and fun bonding exercises. Give the challenge a try, and then let us know how it went!

Day 1: Make Out Session

Reignite the passion with a long, slow make-out session. No rushing—just enjoy the build-up of anticipation.

Day 2: Massage Exchange

Give each other relaxing full-body massages. Focus on touch and communication through hands.

Day 3: Try a New Position

Get adventurous and explore a sex position you've never tried before. Break out of the routine!

Day 4: 10-Minute Eye Gazing

Spend 10 minutes sitting quietly, gazing into each other’s eyes. This deepens your emotional connection and intimacy.

Day 5: Outdoor Make-Out

Find a quiet, private outdoor space and share a steamy make-out session. Keep it simple, but let the fresh air add a new vibe.

Day 6: Write Love Letters

Each of you write a heartfelt letter expressing your love and admiration for the other. Exchange letters over a cozy dinner.

Day 7: Take a Shower Together

Hop in the shower or bath together. Use this time to relax, play, and reconnect in a sensual way.

Day 8: Talk Dirty

Spice things up by whispering sexy thoughts or fantasies to each other throughout the day, even when you're apart.

Day 9: Play a Sexy Game

Play a sensual game like strip poker, truth or dare, or a custom game that challenges each other’s boundaries in a fun way.

Day 10: Gratitude Ritual

Take turns telling each other three things you’re grateful for about your relationship. Focus on emotional and physical connections.

Day 11: Sensory Play

Explore each other’s bodies using different textures like silk, feathers, or ice. Blindfolds optional!

Day 12: Share a Fantasy

Open up about one of your sexual fantasies. Discuss without pressure, just to understand each other better.

Day 13: Go on a Date Night

Have a romantic night out (or in). Focus on reconnecting emotionally and building anticipation for later.

Day 14: 15-Minute Cuddle Session

Set a timer and spend 15 minutes cuddling—no phones, no distractions. Feel the warmth and bond through touch.

Day 15: Sensual Strip Tease

One of you gives the other a private strip tease. Make it playful, seductive, and fun!

Day 16: Erotic Literature

Read a sexy story or an erotic poem aloud to each other. Let it inspire your imagination.

Day 17: Slow Sex Night

Focus on slow, mindful sex. Take your time, enjoy each touch, and aim for connection over climax.

Day 18: Role Play

Pretend to be different characters for the night. It could be strangers meeting at a bar, boss and employee, or any scenario that excites you both.

Day 19: Silent Intimacy

Spend an hour in silence, touching and connecting without words. Let your bodies communicate instead.

Day 20: Morning Quickie

Start your day with a quick, spontaneous sexual session. It’ll set a positive, energized tone for the day.

Day 21: Compliment Each Other

Spend the day complimenting each other. Whether it's about appearance, intelligence, or kindness—be generous with your praise.

Day 22: Explore Each Other’s Bodies

Set a timer for 30 minutes, and simply explore each other’s bodies without rushing or aiming for sex. Focus on discovering what feels good.

Day 23: Tease Throughout the Day

Send flirty texts or leave sexy notes throughout the day to build anticipation for the evening.

Day 24: Dance Together

Put on some music and slow dance together. Let it lead into more intimate touching or just enjoy the closeness.

Day 25: Try Something New in Bed

Experiment with a new toy, a new kink, or a new technique. Talk openly about boundaries and consent.

Day 26: Take a Walk and Hold Hands

Go for a long walk together, holding hands the entire time. Use the walk to discuss dreams or just enjoy each other's company.

Day 27: Share Your Favorite Sexual Memory

Talk about a time when you felt the most connected or had the best sexual experience together. Reliving it can spark new excitement.

Day 28: Watch Something Sexy

Choose an erotic film or video together and watch it as a way to explore desires. Discuss what excites you about it.

Day 29: Erotic Photography

Take sexy photos of each other in lingerie, in bed, or while role-playing. Keep it private or share it with each other for fun.

Day 30: Gratitude and Reflection

Sit down together and reflect on the last 30 days. Share what you loved, what you learned, and how the challenge has brought you closer.

This challenge is all about breaking routines, trying new things, and building a deeper connection with your partner. Whether you're focused on emotional bonding or sexual exploration, these activities will help you rediscover each other in fun and intimate ways. How do you connect with your partner? Sound off below!